When life gets busy, one of the first things to go in a relationship is sex. Couples are too tired, too full, too stressed, too distracted. Simply put: not in the mood.
We get it — there are a million and one legitimate reasons not to have sex tonight, tomorrow or the day after that. But there are plenty of couples out there who are doing the deed five, six, seven or more times a week . We recently asked married HuffPost readers who have sex every night (barring things like sickness, business trips or other extenuating circumstances, of course) how it has improved their lives and relationships. Below are 13 good reasons to get it on with your spouse on a near daily basis.
1. It provides some much-needed couple time.
“My husband and I have sex every night because it’s a moment in the day that is just about the two of us. We are parents to a toddler, so when we lay him down for bed each night, we can then spend the rest of the night expressing how we feel about each other physically. Having sex allows us to be passionate, to show affection and we enjoy pleasing each other.” – Christie M. of Arkansas; married 3 years
2. It leads to more PDA outside of the bedroom.
“We’re very physically expressive with one another, even when we’re not having sex. We hold hands a lot, he slaps my butt when I’m working in the kitchen, I nuzzle his neck when he’s working on research papers at the desk.” – Jesse N. of Ontario, Canada; married less than one year
3. It can be a workout if you do it right.
“When you have four kids and no time, sex is the best exercise.” – Tera M. of Oklahoma, married less than one year
4. It gets you out of your head for a little while.
“Sex for me, and now for my husband since we’ve gotten together, is a complete escape from reality. We are both very much into role-playing and it’s such a wonderful feeling to not have to be me for a while, to completely shut off from our crappy day-to-day existence and strictly be about ourselves and our enjoyment.” – Sara C., of Panama City, Florida; married one year
5. It builds trust.
“New positions and sexual frontiers take a lot of trust in your partner to not screw it up, and that kind of trust is best earned after several years of personal and joint bodily exploration.” – Kristena M. of Richmond, Virginia; married 10 years
6. It’s a way to connect without speaking.
“Sex is a vital part of marriage. It brings couples together in a way that other things don’t. What I mean is that it promotes togetherness, snuggling and cuddling, and it’s a way to connect without words.” – Teresa F. of Nashville, Michigan; married 37 years
7. You might end up arguing less.
“We know when something is off with each other. And most importantly, we don’t fight, argue or bicker! We sit down and talk things out. Staying connected like that helps us communicate better outside of the bedroom.” – Libby S. of Indianapolis, Indiana; married 2 years
8. It forces you to get creative.
“Being intimate so often, and sharing what each person needs and wants allows the freedom of creativity. There is no position or situation either of us has ever denied the other. This makes us each feel more and more comfortable to share [fantasies] or point out a hot girl or guy, and say what we’d like to do with them in bed.” – Arlene B. of Monterey, California; engaged for 3 years
9. It’s easier to schedule than a formal date night.
“I think it’s the easiest way to have some romance since we really don’t do date nights or vacations alone. Plus, I know my husband enjoys it.” – Emily D. of Pleasanton, California; married 12 years
10. One word: Orgasms.
“The benefit for me is that it feels simply amazing. I also love to see how my husband gets lost in the moment. Being able to see that level of complete satisfaction on his face is so satisfying to me.” – Stacia L. of Texas; married 11 years
11. It improves self-esteem.
“It has brought a new level of happiness for me personally, and has helped my self-esteem knowing that after two kids, my husband still thinks I’m sexy.” – Karri H. of Alaska, married 6 years
12. It’s a guaranteed mood booster.
“He sings in the shower after morning sex, nearly every time. This is all the proof I need that sex is a mood enhancer for him. And I’d like to think that good mood carries over into other parts of his day. I love knowing that I’m the reason he’s smiling at work.” – Jesse N. of Ontario, Canada; married less than one year
13. If you use it, you won’t lose it. “If sex is such a large part of your routine and a big priority, it never becomes low priority or gets weird or awkward. And you won’t have to worry about how to resume or reconnect. Just don’t ever stop
Monthly Archives: October 2015
When life gets busy, one of the first things to go in a relationship is sex. Couples are too tired, too full, too stressed, too distracted. Simply put: not in the mood.
Alhaji Balarabe Musa, a former governor of old Kaduna state, has asked Nigerians not to show any sympathy for former president, Chief Olusegun Obasanjo.
The outspoken ex-governor also lambasted Goodluck Jonathan over the accidents encountered on Lagos—Ibadan expressway, stating that the immediate past president and Obasanjo are reaping the fruits of their past deeds.
According to Daily Post, Alhaji Musa, who spoke after the incidents, said the two former leaders should apologise to Nigerians for not meeting the demands of their office concerning that road and that they only decided not to fix the road.
“When both of them were in office, they budgeted billions of naira for construction work on that expressway and other ones across the country, but that was where it ended as the money voted for the work on the road usually mend in private pockets.
“Thousands of Nigerians lose their lives on these deplorable roads everyday but now that the two of them
have also become victims of negligence of that highway, the authorities should let them lick their wounds as they soberly reflected that when they had the opportunity to fix the roads, they failed to do so.
“What happened to Obasanjo and Jonathan should now serve as a wake-up call to Buhari. As the sitting president of the country, he should order a probe into how billions of naira voted for construction and repair works on the roads ended in private pockets.
“The stolen money should be retrieved while those involved no matter how highly placed should be put on trial for economic sabotage instead of us sympathizing with Obasanjo and Jonathan.
“They are the ones who owed Nigerians an apology for failing to perform their duties when they were in
“The state of our roads across the country is very shameful. Most of them are death traps. For an oil-producing nation, this is a big shame and embarrassment. But these carnages on our roads is enough, and this is why Buhari must go all out to apprehend those who are responsible for the deplorable state of our roads.
“It serves both Obasanjo and Jonathan right to have a taste of what average Nigerians suffer as a result of bad state of our roads,” he explained.
A group of Satanists showed up to a Washington state high school football game in response to the controversy surrounding a football coach who was placed on administrative leave for praying with some players at games.
Bremerton High School announced Wednesday that football coach Joe Kennedy was placed on paid administrative leave for continuing post-game prayers despite being warned to stop. Though Kennedy was barred from participating in the football program’s activities, he may attend events on the same terms as any community member, the school said in a statement.
Kennedy attended Thursday’s football game and prayed, but this time in the stands instead of on the field.
“It’s funny that it was OK to pray where I was in the stands but not 100 feet from there,” Kennedy told ABC News today. “I guess that the fence I was behind was the safe-to-pray place in America.”
Kennedy added that it was “incredibly tough” to watch the game as a spectator instead of a coach but that he was “proud” of his players.
Also at the game, but outside the stadium, were about 13 members of the Satanic Temple of Seattle dressed in robes and ritual garb, Chapter Head Lilith Starr told ABC News today.
The Satanic Temple said on Monday that its members were available to attend the game on Thursday if anyone wanted them to. Three teachers and three students extended an invitation to the group, according to Starr.
“Originally, our plan was to do an invocation on the field at the same time Kennedy was doing his prayer in support of religious diversity,” Starr said. “But when they put Kennedy on leave we withdrew our request.”
Instead, the group only stayed for a little while to meet and talk with their supporters outside of the stadium before students inside starting yelling religious remarks and throwing things at the members, Starr said, adding that school officials, police officers and student supporters were polite and welcoming.
Before it was cancelled, Starr had planned to read an invocation on the field, followed by a ritual in which a woman dressed as Lucifer would give Starr an apple to bite, she would ring a gong and they would all say “Ave Satanas” (hail Satan) before walking off, Starr said.
20. Death at the Chapel – The Horrors (2006)
This was the British goth-rockers’s second single, and, along with an appearance on the cover of NME, it helped propel them to success. Telling the story of a gruesome murder on a dark night, it’s certainly morbid enough to fit any Halloween playlist – but there’s a certain sadness underneath the violent guitar thrashing and screeching vocals: vocalist Faris Badwan has claimed the song is about his belief in true love being altered (‘no one will ever love you’). Maybe more despairing and disillusioned than creepy, but still certain to make any party feel like a horror movie.
19. People Are Strange – Echo & the Bunnymen (1987)
‘People Are Strange’ was on the soundtrack for Vampire movie ‘The Lost Boys’
There’s something eerie about the slow droning sound of this Liverpool rock band that gets them a place on all manner of scary soundtracks, such as those of Donnie Darko and E4’s Misfits. This track, a cover of the The Doors’ song, played in the background of eighties film The Lost Boys as things all turned a bit vampiric.
18. Mind’s Playing Tricks on Me – Geto Boys (1991)
Widely recognised as one of the best hip hop songs of the nineties, Mind’s Playing Tricks on Me was the Geto Boys’s only number one single and attained certified Gold status from the RIAA. It’s an evocative tale of frenetic paranoia and hallucination – ‘See, everytime my eyes close/ I start sweatin, and blood starts comin out my nose’. The song has been referenced and sampled by a wide range of other artists, including the Notorious BIG and Destiny’s Child.
17. Jack the Ripper – Screaming Lord Sutch (1963)
‘When she walks down the streets, he’s never far behind/ The Ripper, Jack The Ripper/ With his little black bag and his one tracked mind/ The Ripper, Jack The Ripper’. It’s easy to see why the BBC banned Screaming Lord Sutch’s version of Clarence Stacy’s 1961 song. There’s no denying that it’s a catchy tune, but there’s only so much foot-tapping you can do to lyrics celebrating one of the most rampantly misogynist criminals of all time before you start to feel a little uneasy…
16. Bela Lugosi’s Dead – Bauhaus (1979)
The cover for the single is from the D. W. Griffith film The Sorrows of Satan (1926) CREDIT: SMALL WONDER
Bauhaus’s first single was the nine minutes of ethereal gloom that heralded the emergence of gothic rock. The low-key tune is steeped in cinematic horror – its title refers to the actor famous for playing Dracula in the original 1931 movie, and Bauhaus performed the song during the opening credits of 1983 horror film The Hunger.
15. I Was a Teenage Werewolf – The Cramps (1957)
There’s nothing subtle or eerie about The Cramps’s brand of horror, which is wonderfully theatrical and replete with double-entendres. Much of their inspiration came from horror or sci-fi movies – ‘I Was a Teenage Werewolf’ descends from the fifties cult hit of the same name. After a bleak 10 minutes of Bauhaus, the psychobilly kings are bound to bring a bit of energy back into the mix.
14. I Eat Cannibals – Toto Coelo (1982)
Encouraged by the widespread success of this energetic, bizarre first single, the group tried to continue the gruesome-glam image with their next single Dracula’s Tango. But it was a flop, and the group remains something of one-hit-wonder, known mainly for the aerobics-on-acid video to go with ‘I Eat Cannibals’.
13. Spooky – Dusty Springfield (1968)
Spooky started life as a Mike Shapiro sax solo before sixties band Classics IV added some (pretty simple) lyrics, and it eventually wound up in Dusty’s husky tones. A slightly debatable selection, there’s actually nothing spooky about this breezy tune apart from the way it will make your hips start swaying…
12. Release the Bats – The Birthday Party (1980)
Another hair-raising Halloween tune to emerge from the post-punk era, Release the Bats is a self-aware scary song that really rams the point home, with lyrics such as: ‘sex horror sex bat sex sex horror sex vampire / sex bat horror vampire sex’. The band’s uniquely noisy gothic sound led to the solo career of Nick Cave, celebrated for his melancholy vocals (presumably from too much sex and horror and sex and horror).
11. Red Right Hand – Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds (1984)
Nick Cave’s best-known single is an unnerving mix of nursery-rhyme simplicity and disturbing images. The phrase ‘red right hand’ descends from Milton’s Paradise Lost, referring to the vengeful hand of God – so the erudite party guests can spot the reference while everyone else shimmys to that cool, clanging beat…
10. Ghost Town – The Specials (2000)
Everyone loves a bit of socio-political commentary to bring a party to life: The Specials cover urban decay, de-industrialisation, the rise of inner city violence and unemployment in ‘Ghost Town’, the song that spent three weeks at number one back in the 80s at the time of the riots. The British youth, disillusioned and dispossessed, saw the song as the anthem of their anger and uprising. But it’s also got a reference to ghosts in the title, earning it a place on the Halloween list.
9. Monster – Kanye West (2010)
Featuring Nicki Minaj, Jay-Z and Rick Ross as well as Bon Iver’s Justin Vernon, this is a beast of a Halloween song lauded by critics and placed at number 53 in NME’s Best Tracks of the past 15 years. It’s an intentionally disturbing affair, with a drum-heavy, demonic sound and explosive range of voices. The video is a horror movie in short, with zombies, corpses, and an excessive amount of near naked women.
8. Somebody’s Watching Me – Rockwell (1984)
Synth-funk got scary with Rockwell’s debut single. Michael Jackson’s distinctively eerie vocals ring out over a persistent rhythmic beat – an uncanny combination that made this an eighties classic and a Halloween party dream. Paranoia never sounded so catchy.
7. Ghostbusters – Ray Parker, Jr (1989)
Little needs to be said about this tune. It’s Halloween, you’re trying to liven things up, all the songs on your playlist sound quite similar apart from the anomalous hip-hop selections – what ya gunna play? Ghostbusters!
6. Highway to Hell – AC/DC (1979)
Overplayed to the point of being a bit annoying, the Australian hard rock group’s most famous track still deserves a place on the Halloween party playlist – the only way to further embarrass yourself while in fancy dress is with an air guitar.
5. Superstition – Stevie Wonder (1972)
Any excuse to play this funk/ soul wonder can only be a good thing. Unlike many of the other songs on our playlist, this timeless number is all about steering clear of superstitious beliefs and getting into the Motown groove.
4. A Nightmare on my Street – Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince (1988)
Everyone’s favourite eighties hip-hop duo turned sinister with this hellish rap. Think the Fresh Prince of Bel Air theme tune with a few demonic voice overs thrown in – an infallible crowd pleaser.
3. I Put a Spell on You – Screaming Jay Hawkins (1956)
What happens when you add ribs, chicken and alcohol to a bluesy ballad? A seriously successful, screamy soul tune, apparently. Hawkins recalls that the song was just a normal, easy tune before their producer plied them with meat and booze. “I don’t even remember making the record” says Hawkins, “I found out I could do more [by] destroying a song and screaming it to death.” For a mellower, less sozzled version of the song, Nina Simone’s ’56 version is a hypnotic treat.
2. Thriller – Michael Jackson (1982)
Jackson moonwalked into the Halloween hall of fame with this, the ultimate anthem for October 31 and a classic at any time of year. The video has it all – werewolves and full moons, damsels in distress and a dashing red catsuit, topped off with a dance routine that we’ve all, at some point, tried and failed to perfect.
1. Monster Mash – Bobby Pickett & the Crypt-Kickers (1962)
How else to close the most American night of the year than with the tune that makes you feel like you’re a kid in a Norman Rockwell painting, eating toffee apples and listening to Grandad’s spooky tales?
This kitsch tune has been in and out of the charts ever since its release in the sixties. Pickett sings in character as a mad scientist whose twinkle-toed monster comes to life one gloomy night – a concept that the BBC found so shocking they banned it in 1962. It was re-released in ’73 and has remained a firm Halloween favourite ever since.
Chelsea this afternoon were humbled by a rampant Liverpool side at Stamford bridge.It is Chelsea’s sixth defeat of the season and pushes them closer to the relegation zone.Chelsea took the lead through Ramires but Liverpool responded with two beautiful goals from Coutinho and a third from Christian Benteke.It is Jurgen Klopp’s first win as Liverpool manager.
Speaking to BBC sport after the match Mourinho said “What I see from my players was good until a moment where they felt it was impossible to do better.
“The fight goes on but sometimes there are fights that are very impossible to win. I can play against any team, against any manager, win, lose but more than this…”On the performance and his future: “I have nothing to say. I have nothing to say. I have nothing to say. I’m so sorry I have nothing to say. The fans are not stupid. I am not worried [about his future]. “He further said”I will go home to find a sad family then I will try to watch some of the rugby and disconnect a little bit from this then I will start preparing the training session for tomorrow morning for Wednesday’s game.”
Mourinho will come under further pressure as his Job is no way assured.
Chelsea’s abysmal start to the season took another turn for the worse after the lost to Liverpool FC earlier today.It now means Chelsea have amassed 11 points from their first eleven games making them the 11-11 team.It was a performance to forget as Chelsea flopped in all departments.
John Terry was abysmal.He once and for all proved to us that he is better at bedding other player’s wives and girlfriends than playing football.Hazard was a shadow of his old self .Mourinho was still defiant as usual saying he is under no pressure.chelsea now have the worst start to a premier league season by a defending champion.Even David Moyes’s disastrous stint at Manchester United didn’t have such unwanted distinction.Will Mourinho survive?Only time will tell.
Since former child star Raven-Symoné became a co-host on ABC’s “The View,” she has made headlines for some of her very controversial statements about race and people have finally had enough.
On Wednesday, a petition surfaced on Change.org demanding Barbara Walters, creator of “The View,” remove the actress from the show. More than 90,000 people have signed the petition, so far, and that number continues to rise.
Che Scott-Heron, the U.K. woman who started the petition, wrote on the petition’s website that Raven’s statements only hurt the black community.
“African Americans and black people around the diaspora need a voice representative of their views and not a voice representative of what white people want us to say.” Heron wrote. “We need strong black role models in prominent positions on television and Raven-Symoné cannot provide that. That is why I ask that we petition to remove her from ‘The View.'”
Supporters are backing Heron on social media, too.
Please RT this is @ravensymone should be fired for misrepresenting black views with her self-hating comments on @TheView
— Taylor Gray (@taylorgray___) October 28, 2015
Barbara Walters: Petition to remove Raven Symone from The View
— alex illest (@alexillest) October 29, 2015
Earlier this month, the former Cheetah Girl said she wouldn’t hire someone with a “black” sounding name, though she later apologized.
According to Heron, the catalyst for launching the petition stemmed from Raven’s recent comments about the Spring Valley High School assault. Raven blamed the student’s cell phone use during school as the reason behind her being brutally assaulted by a school officer.
“For some [petition starters], raising awareness and starting a conversation may be enough,” a spokesperson from Change.org said to The Huffington Post via email. “For others, actually receiving a response from the petition’s subjects may meet their standard.”
Neither Barbara Walters or Raven have commented on the petition, yet. CNN news anchor Don Lemon has also received similar backlash after siding with the officer in the Spring Valley High School incident, and there’s a Change.org petition to remove him from the air. The petition against Lemon has more than 31,000 signatures out of its goal of 35,000.